What most people have is a tendency to be all about themselves. Everything is about them, it is all about them.
In fact, if they realize you’re talking to them, they’ll start out by saying, “Hey how are you! Great! Well, let me tell you about me.”
You know what comes next. The life story, “I was born in 1962, I grew up on the wrong side of the tracks, I I got in trouble when I was young, I got put in prison, I got raised by adopted families…”
By this stage, you’re probably thinking to yourself, “Wow, is this going somewhere?”
I bring this up is because people reach out to me for help all the time, and the first thing to leave their mouth is, “Can I get a minute of your time?”
which is one of my favorite questions.
Can I get a minute of your time? I just need a minute!
It would be great if they only took the minute they asked for. But this never happens.
Conversation and connection has to do with one person talking in the other person. The conversation is going back and forth.
And in a perfect conversation, if you’ve ever been in one which I know that you have, you’ll notice that both people are contributing both people are listening.
I know some of you may be mad at me for saying this, but please don’t be. I use to be one of these people.
This is something a lot of people do. They work against their own benefit by replaying the same old DVD…the same story that keeps them where they are.
Instead, ask questions. Ask someone about themselves and listen to what they have to say. This is such a valuable tool. Don’t be selfish!
Watch the video above to learn how to stop doing this or how to help others who are selfish.
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