When you won’t forgive other people, other circumstances, other things … YOU’RE POWERLESS! You totally have given away all your power, when you won’t FORGIVE somebody.
That doesn’t mean you condone what they do. It doesn’t mean that what they did was OK. It has nothing to do with them. It has everything to do with YOU!!
One of the things you also need to learn is how to FORGIVE YOU!! It’s amazing to me, how many people – and probably most people like me – are so good at beating the crap out of themselves. Flat out beating themselves up – 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. It’s like we won’t cut ourselves a break.
I should’ve did this and I should’ve did that. We “SHOULD” ALL OVER OURSELVES. Just stop beating yourself up. You got to stop “shouldin’” all over yourself! JUST STOP IT!!
A mentor can really help you with this. My own mentor, Bill Gouldd, said to me one time when we were traveling and stuck in an airport, “Robert, if you ask me one more time, what you can do to get better, I’m going to punch you in the nose. … Robert, you’re asking me all the time, what can I do to get better?”
Bill said everyone of us wants to get better. But if you don’t take a minute, if you don’t take a little bit of time to congratulate yourself for what you’ve done … YOU’RE GOING TO QUIT. You need to find a way to reward yourself for doing what you’ve done up to this point. Can you reward yourself, please? You’ve got to say to yourself “GOOD JOB” and “I’M PROUD OF YOU”.
And you know what? I still do this on a daily basis. I still have to learn to forgive myself. I still have to give myself a little credit. I still need to pat myself on the back and tell myself I did a GOOD JOB.
Why not you?
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